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Sunday, January 07, 2007

~ 6:12 PM ~

was reading a book today before core meeting (which lasted for a continuous 4 hours!!) about relationships. dont ask why that topic again, because one, that is my weakest area, and i gotta learn how to deal with relationships and emotions; and two, i gotta start preparing for courtship. never too early to be prepared, and it can really help a great deal in your future courtship.

those 10 minutes of silent reading, really taught me a valuable life lesson, not one that i would be forgetting anytime soon. and whatever i may say, to anyone who may be reading this, i hope that it will impact you as much as it did me, especially for those who struggles with relationships and the like.

and its really effective that even reading many other books, this message gripped me so strongly to let go of a 4 year persistance(:

letting God write your love story isnt exactly easy. in fact, i would say its one of the hardest thing to do. i can willingly give every area of my life to Him, letting Him take control of areas i need help in. everything except my love life. we try by all ways to compromise, yet no matter how good we can perceive a relationship to be, it will always fall short of God's standards. we were never meant to be in charge of our own love story.

the question is that are you willing to let God write your love story? think about it. its not as simple as just something you can so easily give up. honestly said, you may claim to let God have control but just look carefully, and im sure you will find many situations whereby you compromised your standards. its not about letting God be JUST ANOTHER crew on your love boat. its not about the assurance of His presence that you can do WHATEVER you want. its not about giving Him the parts of the ship ship, but you are still comandeering the vessel.

its about giving Him the entire ship; deck, steer and even the Captains Quarters. no questions asked.

now think about that. can you really do that? can you live with it that you have absolutely no control over what goes on in your love life? i know i cant, yet i know His perfect and pleasing will for me, plans not to harm me but for me to prosper. to that extent, im sure you know what i mean, but it is still so hard to let go of it.

i personally believe that God has already set someone aside for me, strictly for me alone. and like many people, i have rather high standards. save the obvious "she must be a christian" and "she must support me in the area os missions", i think i would like my future spouse to be pure, in a sense that i know that she has reserved herself for me, and i leave you to figure out what that means.

if God's plan and purpose for me is really marriage, then she is probably already out there actually doing something. sometimes i cant help wondering if i have already met her. have YOU thought about that already? that the person you will one day marry is actually wandering somewhere?! and if you have thought of that, wouldnt you be imagining what they are doing at the current moment?

i know i do. and the very last thing i would want to see her be doing is going out with another guy! i could almost picture her making out with somebody else other than me! and it can be kinda freaky to an extent.

on a personal level, if you desire purity in your spouse, how much more would you think he/she would desire purity in you? i had always wanted my future wife to "do me the favour of staying pure, give me a little respect, and prove to me that i am the love of her life. i was hungering for the 'beautiful side of love', but i never realised that i would find it when i started to focus on the way i lived and loved, not just on the way she lived and loved. and that i would find it, when i finally focused on honuring her before we met even if she never considered honouring me in return."

everytime you fall for someone, you give part of your heart away to that person.

how many times are you going to give your heart away before you get married?
how much of your heart will there be left for your future spouse?
is there even going to be anything left at all?
will you end up with a misconception about the oppsite sex after all the breakups?
can you come clean about your past with your spouse?
would you have regretted giving pieces of your heart away?
will love even hold any meaning?

think about those 7 questions. if that is what you are going through in your life, maybe you should reconsider whatever you are doing. just as you may desire purity in him/her, i am certain he/she will desire the same extent of purity within you. imagine if your could have a glimpse of your spouse now, and caught them making out at some club, hw would you feel? i know how i would: just like any normal human would, crying because her affection was being given to someone else.

what if the Messiah who went through all the torture, died hanging naked on the cross and bore all the humiliation, saw you in whatever state you are in. what if He found out that He died for you so you could just enjoy life as it is.

will He have wet eyes as He watches you live your life, the life that He died to set you free from?

i have a covenant with God since i was young. i always thought kisses were icky and gross, but as i grew older, i started viewing a kiss as something passionate, and act that somewhat lets you express your love and passion. to admit, i came so close to giving my first kiss away once. so close..and as i look back i really thank God that i didnt. i want my first kiss to be special, i want my first to be given to my wife at the altar. and its stricty a covenant between me, my wife and God. the first ever kiss i will give away (to another girl besides my mom) will be at the altar.

i want it to be something special for her..

say its far-fetched. say its crazy. say whatever you want, but that doesnt leave any room for me to compromise my purity. and i hope that you will take up the same promise to..not for me, not for anyone, but solely for the person whom you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

to the guys, i can say give her your heart, mind and body now! its easy to run around from one shallow relationship to the next, meeting your selfish desires. but it takes as real man, a real lover, to keep one woman satisfied for life. and when you do that,, God will seal your marriage with abounding grace and agape love, a faithful union to the end of times, sanctified with His glory and consent.

to many of my friends who i know are going through storms in this area of life, i want to assure you that dont worry, you are not alone. i guess its natural for teens to go through that phase. whatever you are doing now, search through them and ask if its edifying. i only hope that our God of grace will bring you out. always know that you can cast your cares upon Him.

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