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Sunday, January 28, 2007

~ 11:44 PM ~

its really becoming a cliche this generation to hear this phrase: "NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME!!!"

like i said before, maybe if we look closely at the lives at others, we are not so different after all. problems of different magnitudes, problems of different sources, problems with different matters. be it problems of any sort, they are still rather generic arent they?

relationship problems?
friendship problems?
spiritual problems?
educational problems?
stress-related problems?
familial problems?

been there? great for you! i have just one thing to say..

SO HAVE MANY OTHERS BEFORE YOU!

so many a times we always think we're alone in this struggle. always searching for a way out. no one has answers. no one can help. so where do we turn to? self-abuse. suicide. death. really people, if you can start seeing things in a different light, that so many others out there, be it children, youths, adults, they are face the same problems too. maybe to different extents, but essentially still the same problems. recovering from a heart-ache? have you not friends who have endured having their hearts ripped to shreds too? feeling like your parents dont understand you or your intentions? are there not others who come from divorced families? just had a fallen out with your friend? which friendship bond doesnt require to go through the test of time? ARE YOU REALLY ALONE IN ALL THESE?

its amazing (and saddening) to see people complain everywhere they go. they whine and groan, complaining how life is so unfair to them, cursing the plights they are in and wishing they had never been born? im no innocent man myself too. i used to blog about how no one can ever understand me. look back at all my entries. how i am so confounded that people treat matters of the heart so lightly. how i constantly whine of this undying and unrequited love. how no one can ever understand what loneliness means.

until you come to a stage where you can face your problems head on, you might as well spend the rest of your life crying over split milk, never able to recover from what has happened before.

do you not see that we only grow through this trials and struggles thrown along your way? do you not see that all these problems can and will shape you into a better person? i cant imagine being born with a silver spoon in my mouth, having someone to always do everything for me, being so sheltered and protected. saying this really is so ironic.

as youths we always clamour for freedom. the freedom to go out as and when we please, to do what we want with no parental constrictions. we want absolute freedom to be thrown in our way. yet when we get it, we complain of the world being too dirty and unfair, of how hard it is to survive in the real world. our problems never ever ends, instead we only get tossed into a never-ending cycle of grief and hurt. there is no hard and fast rule to solve all your problems. they all come by experience, and only through experience do you learn how to go through each phase of life.

looking back at last year, i really thank God for everything that has happened. from things that i thought could have no good end, He displays His redeeming grace to makie new everything, conclude it in much better ways than we first dreamt of. Indeed God has been so faithful to His promises for me, plans to prosper me and not to harm me, but to give me a hope and a future. and in Him, i have found His compassion and love.

and maybe when we realise that we are not alone, can we open ourselves to others and share. mind you, i say all these but yet i have still learnt to understand that there are people like me. i always think that no one could fully comprehend the meaning of loneliness, but yet as i screen through blogs, i sometimes empathise with them and only wish they could understand that God understands..born to earth as a man, not in a high-class residence but in a lowly manger. worked as a carpenter and despised by others.he wasnt blessed with fantastically good looks i believe, neither did he have an eloquent tongue or a sophisticated hand. called a fool by his family and doubted by his disciples. mocked in His ministry, even crucified by the very people He had come to save. think you're alone, think again.

jesus has walked that path before..

on loneliness, something im so well versed with, many fail to realise its actually a gift. i enjoy being alone, but sometimes in groups it can really be extremely hurting to feel so out of place, with no one to share with or confide in. thats me. yet i always remind myself to stop and be prayerful in actions and deeds. its only when we are alone that we can fully devote spending time with the Lord. its only when we are alone can we understand how He felt in His ministry. its only when we are alone can we draw closer to Him. these i learnt from my time being alone, spared from all the hustle and bustle of friendship sometimes, to STOP, and LOOK up to Him, before i GO. though being lonely isnt exactly fun, that i admit, btu it really helps at times. well its an in-built thing for me..thats why im special(: not that im dissuading friendship or anything, its really good to have a few people you can really trust for support in everything (whom i am still searching for), but being lonely can have its perks.

maybe my life is one to be spent alone after all..

and just before you start accusing me of being a pro-anti-socialst (something i would like to consider myslef though), or throw me something like "you really dont understand me", can we as youths at least come to a consensus that we stop using such negative connotations like a "human dart board", "i cannot take it anymore", "feel like killing myself",...actually i can fill this whole post with all those phrases, but well i suppose you get my drift. i really hate (yes the word is hate, not dislike or disapprove) people who always blog about killing themselves and stuff like that. i mean if you can even be reading this, you are so much more fortunate than million others. not that my post will definitely help you, but at least you have a computer, so you cant be that worse off right?

i wouldnt want to see half the population gone even before we step up in the world.

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